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I have been active in ministering to children, teens and adults for 24 years. I have discovered puppets to be an amazing tool for reaching people of all ages. Puppets are animated, fun and engaging. They are a wonderful way to pull people into a conversation and hold their attention.

I have created this page to share with you the magic of puppetry in ministry and teaching. You can look forward to how-to articles, free resources, puppet scripts and more.

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Directing Puppet Performances


Directing Puppet Performances

Directing puppet performances is an important aspect of creating engaging and entertaining
shows.

A good director can help to bring the puppets and characters to life, and create a memo-
rable experience for the audience. Here are some steps that can guide you through the process
of directing puppet performances:

Understand the script:

Before you start directing the performance, it’s essential to understand
the script. This means reading it thoroughly and getting a good grasp of the characters, plot, and
themes of the performance.

Cast the puppets:

Once you have a good understanding of the script, cast the puppets for the
performance. This means choosing the right puppets for the right roles, and making sure that
they are able to perform the actions and dialogue as written in the script.

Choreograph the movements:

Choreograph the movements of the puppets to create a believable
and expressive performance. This means planning out the puppet’s movements, such as walk-
ing, gesturing, and facial expressions, in relation to the script.

Rehearse:

Once the puppets are cast and the movements are choreographed, rehearse the perfor-
mance. This is a great opportunity to make sure that the puppets are able to perform the actions
and dialogue as written in the script, and to make any necessary adjustments.

Set design and lighting:

Set design and lighting play an important role in the overall feel and
atmosphere of the performance. Work closely with the set designer and lighting technician to
create the desired look and feel for the performance.

Block the performance:

Once the set is designed, block the performance. This means planning
out the movements of the puppets and the positioning of the puppeteers on stage, in relation to
the set and lighting. This will ensure that the performance flows well and that the audience has a
clear view of the puppets and their movements.

Cue and direct the performance:

During the performance, cue and direct the puppeteers and
other members of the crew. This means giving them the cues they need to start and stop the per-
formance, and making sure that the performance is running smoothly.

Make adjustments:

As the performance progresses, make adjustments as needed. This could in-
clude making changes to the puppets’ movements, dialogue, or lighting, in order to improve the
overall performance.

Evaluate and reflect:

After the performance, evaluate and reflect on the performance. Take note
of what worked well and what didn’t, and use this feedback to improve future performances.

Directing puppet performances requires creativity, attention to detail, and a thorough under-
standing of the script, puppets, and performance. With practice and patience, anyone can learn
the basic principles of directing and create engaging and entertaining puppet performances that
can be enjoyed by people of all ages and backgrounds. Additionally, it is important to work
closely with other members of the team such as puppeteers, set designer, lighting technician,
and sound designer to create a cohesive and well-rounded performance.

Moo-ving Inn: A Christmas Story. Two Puppet Script


Puppet Script For Christmas

Here is an original and fun script for your puppet team to use.

Moo-ving Inn

BOBBY: Moo! Moo!

JASMINE: Bobby! What are you doing?

BOBBY: I’m practicing for my part in the Christmas play. I’m a cow. Moo!

JASMINE: There are no cows in the Christmas story. You’re thinking of reindeer. Cows can’t fly
and pull Santa’s sled.

BOBBY: Reindeer can’t fly either. But the Christmas story isn’t about Santa, it’s about Jesus.

JASMINE: But what do trees and ornaments and presents have to do with Jesus?

BOBBY: Nothing. Don’t you know the Christmas story?

JASMINE: Sure, it goes, “T’was the night before Christmas and all through the house…..”

BOBBY: T’was? Who says t’was? I t’weren’t expecting that. Christmas is about the birth of Jesus.

JASMINE: Are you sure?

BOBBY: Yes. It all began when an angel appeared and told Mary she was gonna give birth to a
child and this child would be the Son of God. This message was puzzling to Mary because she and
Joseph were not even married yet. But Mary believed the angel and she did exactly what he told her

JASMINE: Angels – yes, that part sounds like Christmas. Then what happened?

BOBBY: Then another angel appeared to Joseph in a dream and explained to him that he should
not be afraid to take Mary as his wife because the baby that she was carrying was from the Holy
Spirit and according to God’s plan.

JASMINE: This is getting interesting.

BOBBY: Joseph and Mary had to go to Bethlehem to be counted. Bethlehem was so crowded that
night that the only place that they could find to stay was in the stable with the animals.

JASMINE: So that’s where the cow comes in. What about the reindeer, were they in the stable,
too?

BOBBY: There are no reindeer! That night in the stable is where Jesus, the Son of God was born
on earth! His mother Mary gently wrapped baby Jesus in cloth and placed him in the manger to
sleep.

JASMINE: No reindeer? Then how did Santa get to Bethlehem?

BOBBY: Santa is not in the Christmas story. After Jesus was born, shepherds began to arrive to
welcome Jesus. An angel had already told them the good news that a Savior for all peoples had
been born in Bethlehem. They left their flocks to see the baby Jesus and honor him.

JASMINE: And Jesus was born in a stable, with animals?

BOBBY: Yes. There was no room for them at the inn, but they were allowed to take shelter in the
stable.

JASMINE: And Mary was okay with that? Her baby born in a barn? I’ll bet Joseph got an earful
about not reserving a room ahead of time.

BOBBY: The Bible doesn’t’ say, but God was in control. Jesus could have been born in a palace
and had all the comforts of life, if God had wanted, but he wanted us to know that Jesus experienced the same troubles and temptations we all do.

JASMINE: So instead of staying at the Hampton Regency Hotel, they ended up at the Moo-ving
Inn. The Moo-tel Six.

BOBBY: Jesus came as a humble man, in his ministry he was a servant. Jesus is our example. But
today he is King of Kings.

JASMINE: And all this is about Christmas?

BOBBY: No, Christmas is all about Jesus. Christmas is the time we celebrate that God loved us so
much he sent his son to be our Saviour.

JASMINE: Oh! I know this part. John 3:16 “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only be-
gotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”

BOBBY: Yes. Jesus is the gift God gave us.

JASMINE: Jesus was the first Christmas gift! I get it.

BOBBY: Yes. And then he offered us the ultimate gift, eternal life by receiving him as Saviour.

JASMINE: Moo!

BOBBY: What was that?

JASMINE: I am just moo-ved when I think about all this.

BOBBY: I’m glad to see you are in a good mooo-d. Good night Jasmine.

JASMINE: See you soon.

I Do Real Magic! Secrets Of The Magician


I Do Real magic – Article by Dennis Regling 

There is always one smart mouth little kid who loves to tell the magician, “You don’t do ‘real magic.'” To them, real magic is what you see on Bewitched, Harry Potter or Charmed. They believe real magic is doing the supernatural.

What they don’t understand is that what they believe to be real magic isn’t real at all. It is fantasy, trick photography and humbug. What they call “real magic,” does not exist.

Only God can do the supernatural. Only God could part the Red Sea, raise the dead and walk on water. 

Unfortunately, the ones who claim we magicians do not perform real magic have a misunderstanding of what real magic is. When an audience member suspends their disbelief, they can experience real magic .

When I tie a rope into a loop and then clip the ends leaving an endless loop, free of knots, jaws drop. When I see an audience member’s jaw drop, or her the soft exclamation, “What the ….,” I know that person has just experienced real magic. 

For a moment, they saw the impossible. Reality kicks back in pretty quickly, and in their rational mind, they know it was just a trick. But for one fleeting moment, there was magic. 

About twelve years ago, I saw a flying saucer. My theology and reason tell me that extraterrestrial space ships do not exist, but for a few seconds one summer eve, I believed. I was driving home from church one Sunday evening. As I topped a hill, I saw a huge saucer-like object flying at what appeared to be only a few hundred feet above me. Narrow on the ends, high in the center, lots of lights and moving silently across the sky. 

My mind raced. One part said, “I do not believe in these things,” another part was wondering where it would land and if I should run across the fields to find it. A flying saucer. 

Then just a few seconds later, as it passed directly over me, I saw what it really was. The illusion was broken. But for a few seconds, I got to experience the thrill of seeing a real flying saucer. If I had passed out at that moment, no one would ever have convinced me it was not. Yet just as quickly, it passed. 

When I put a single sponge ball in a lady’s hand and she opens her hand to see two balls, that is magic. Their expression, the wonder in their eyes tell me that for a brief moment, they have experienced real magic.

We know what we see on TV is not real. There are no sorcerors that can manipulate nature and do the impossible.

What I do is real magic. With the audience’s permission, I take them into a world where for just a moment, magic happens. 

So please stop telling me I don’t do real magic. It just isn’t true. 

Using Puppets With Pre-Schoolers: How to perform for young children.


Puppets and preschool age children seem to be made for each other. Look at the long-term success of Sesame Street, Mr. Rogers and many other TV programs aimed at the pre-school audience.

They all use puppets. Even Barney added puppets.

Young children love animal puppets.

Frame of Reference

The big thing to remember when working with 3-5 year olds is their lack of knowledge. They have a limited frame of reference.

Most humor assumes you know something and then we either make fun of it, which is satire, or we confuse it, using puns. Because of the limited frame of reference for this young age group, we can eliminate most satire.

They don’t get most satire. Clever or witty things will also go over their heads.

So how can you be funny for little ones?

Little kids love to flaunt what they do know. You can use this to your comic advantage.

  • Call things by the wrong name. Call a cat a dog or a blue ball orange. They will correct you and find it really funny that you don’t know your colors or what an animal is.
  • Mispronounce common words. Call a rabbit a rubbit (because I like to rub it), and they will gleefully correct you. 
  • Perform a common task incorrectly. I often will try to blow into the wrong end of a balloon. The children will yell “turn it around.” I will then turn myself around and try to inflate it again. They will let me know that was the wrong way, so I’ll turn the opposite direction. Next try, I will turn it end for end, but a complete 360 degrees so it is still upside down.  This all gets hilarious to little minds and the children’s response is entertaining to the adults.
  • Running gags work well with children. If you even accidentally drop a prop they will laugh. You can do it over and over and they will laugh every time. When you find something that makes them laugh, you can repeat it.

Get down to their level.

Children don’t get most jokes when they are 3 or 4 years old, but they love visual comedy. Snap yourself in the face while trying to inflate a balloon and they will laugh. 

Drop your hat and “accidentally” kick it farther away from you time and again as you attempt to pick it up and they will laugh until you stop.

Remember, children have had limited exposure to things you find commonplace. Even well-known songs are new to them. You may think it will be funny if you sing a song wrong (works for Weird Al and Alan Sherman), but if the children don’t know the song, the humor will be lost.

Funny Animal Puppets

Little kids love animals, so an animal puppet is a great choice for this age group. The cuter the better.

Sometimes kids will want to show how smart they are by yelling out that the puppet is not real or that it is a puppet. I like to reply with, “Don’t tell him, he thinks he is real.”

Some children LOVE to tell you the puppet is not real. This is NOT the appropriate response.

Try to avoid hard-wood ventriloquist puppets. Those can be very scary to little ones (and my wife says they are creepy). 

With any puppet, if you can make it act shy before it comes out, or ask the kids not to “scare the puppet,” you can help them relax around your little friend. This is especially more important the younger your audience.

Ways to use the puppet to create laughter

  • Use the puppet to perform a magic trick. 
  • Use the puppet in a game of “you didn’t see it.”  In this little “game,” the puppet will do something when you are not looking. The kids will yell for you to look, but you never see what is happening. This can be repeated over and over. 
  • Have the puppet steal a hanky from your pocket or sneeze and wipe his nose on your jacket. 
  • Have the puppet drop things or pronounce words wrong. 
  • Have the puppet pronounce your name wrong. Then you can have a little back and forth with you correcting the puppet again and again. 

Funny stuff to pre-schoolers. Children love it when the puppet gets the best of you.

Roscoe is always trying to trip me up.

The Fear Factor

I already hinted at this. Some children get scared by puppets. School-age kids seem to love things that are creepy, ugly or grotesque, but little ones don’t. Even something like a wolf puppet for Little Red Riding Hood can be very scary to a 3 year old.

Keep the puppet on the quiet side. You may have it whisper in your ear, and you repeat what it said. Or have it speak softly, calmly.

Loud noises and loud voices can be very scary to a 3 or 4-year-old. If something is loud and surprising, it can bring tears.

Your own personality should be gentle and calm. Win the children’s confidence. Let them feel safe.

When twisting balloon sculptures at festivals, I like to let my wife handle the little ones. She will kneel down and her voice is soft. I tend to be louder and more intimidating.

The same child that can laugh at a clown on television or a monster in a cartoon may start crying when meeting a clown in real life. 

Not because the clown is scary, but because they are large, close, and unfamiliar. I believe that is why hardwood puppets are also scary. They are unfamiliar and often they features are exaggerated in a strange way.

How To Perform For Libraries, Preschools and Daycares

  • Don’t be over the top with noise or actions that may appear aggressive to a young mind.
  • Use actions more than words.
  • Use animal puppets that are cute and cuddly.
  • Always be kind to your puppet. Never hit or yell at your puppet.
  • Do things the children can understand and follow.
  • Think like your audience thinks.

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Structuring A Bible Talk For Children’s Ministry


Structuring A Bible Talk For Children’s Ministry

To teach the Bible we need to communicate not just knowledge of what happened in the passage, but also help the children understand its meaning and then how that applies today, to them.

To get to the meaning- you’ll have read the passage and thought about where it fits into the Bible’s story as a whole, as well as its context in the chapters where it is, and become clear in your mind what God is teaching us.

And for application- you’ll have probably scribbled down some ideas –what should my response be?

Great. But how to put it together? You stare at your blank sheet of paper or laptop screen and what do you write?

Well, here is a simple structure which I find works every time. It’s not rocket science but it does work. Access, Teach, Apply- that’s the structure. So get a clean sheet of paper, divide it into 3 columns and write or type those headings on it:

  • Access
  • Teach
  • Apply.

Now all we’ve got to do is fill in the paragraphs under them! So, what’s that first one –

Access

Well, tell you what, let’s come back to that one later. Let’s instead do the second one Teach. This is where you’ll spend the most time and is also the easiest one.

Teach

It’s got two parts – what happened and what it means. So- first what happened?

Write down how you’re going to describe to the children what happened. Write down how you’re going to say it – being careful to use language that they’ll understand and avoiding idiomatic phrases like ‘counting your chickens’ and ‘kick the bucket’.

Write down what visual ideas you’re going to use to make it creative and interactive. You also need to plan what you’re going to keep in and what to leave out.

Sometimes you’re given a Bible passage that includes far too much material for one session and even if you did somehow manage to do it all the children would switch off or leave.

That doesn’t mean that you can ignore bits that are difficult. What it does mean is that if you can still communicate the key points in a passage in a way which doesn’t conflict with the bits you’re not commenting on, or the rest of the Bible, then it’s reasonable to leave them out.

For example, if you’re teaching young children about David’s adultery with Bathsheba it’s reasonable to not comment on her having a bath on the roof and the sordid details that follow. You can still say that David saw Bathsheba and stole her from her husband without extra description.

Having said that, when we’re teaching tough passages- for example God’s judgment in the OT, or the crucifixion it is right to include some of the details- e.g. the crown of thorns, the nails and the spear even for pre-schoolers.

What we need to do is choose visual aids that are appropriate for that age-group.

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TEACH the passage you’ve written down what happened

Now think about what it means. There’s a whole previous articlr on ‘Understanding the meaning of a bible passage’ so do look at that to get more info.

The big idea is to ask what the passage teaches us about God, Jesus, the work of the Holy Spirit, us, the church, the world around us. That might just be a sentence or two that you say yourself. Or if you’re able to, you might want to break out into small groups to explore the meaning.

APPLY

Well, again, that might be part of your talk or you might want to guide the other leaders to look at that in small groups. For that you’d need to provide them with an outline or activity.

If it’s part of your talk then remember that application is about what our response should be to what we’ve just heard. You might be saying something as simple as, ”And we need to listen to Jesus’ warning here…” or “And for us when we are finding it difficult to follow Jesus we should remember His promise that…” or “Isn’t Daniel a good example to us of what we should do when we have to choose between doing what pleases God or what pleases other people…”

Again look at the previous article called ‘Applying bible teaching’ for more help with this. So…that’s TEACH and APPLY.

Childrens Mionistry lessons

ACCESS

Well, this is the one I want to spend most time on. And I recommend that it’s the first thing you do in your talk.

Now, it’s not compulsory but I’ve found over the years that it’s very very effective; it does take extra effort to plan. But the benefit in terms of the clarity of your teaching makes the effort well worthwhile.

So, what is ‘access’?

Access is the way into a talk. It links from what the children understand already to what you’re going to teach them from the Bible passage.

It’s a question, or a challenge or a game or a scenario which illustrates the meaning of your Bible passage, before you start teaching your Bible passage.

In our Vacation Bible School programs, we have two parts, before and after snack.

In the first part, we do songs, games, object lessons and skits. These are leading into the main mesage given after snack. The information here leads into the children’s sermon.

Let me explain with an example. The Sermon the Mount in Matthew 5-7 finishes with Jesus’ parable of the wise and foolish house builders in chapter 7 verses 24-29.

Great passage to teach children. Very visual. The meaning is in verses 24 and 26: “Therefore, everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like…

The meaning is about listening to Jesus and obeying him, especially so that we put our faith in him.

So, what could we do in the access section?

You could start your talk by showing them some instructions for building some flat-packed furniture, or a recipe for a cake or something. Talk about how we can follow the instructions and do what they say, or we can choose to ignore them and end up making a mess of it.

You could even show them a picture of a disastrous wardrobe or cake if you have the time. That illustrates the meaning of the passage before you start to teach the passage.

You can then start to teach: “Now, Jesus told us a little story to teach us to listen to what he says and obey him…otherwise what will happen will not be a horrible cake but our whole lives will be a disaster.

Then you’re into ‘teach’ where you do the parable.

Access can be done in loads of different ways. What about Jesus’ healing the blind man in John 9– the meaning is about needing to see things- particularly Jesus- clearly.

So to access this how about starting with a powerpoint showing some photos of things disguised by blocking out most of the picture. And then take the blocks away to reveal the whole image.

Or for Jesus calming the storm in Mark 4 (the meaning being Jesus’ authority over all creation) you could show them some pictures of people with authority, such as police officers, teachers, etc, as a way in to help them understand Jesus’ authority over everything because He is King over everything.

Access takes lots of forms- it could be a quiz, a game or even as simple as asking a question about a situation the children might find themselves in.

or Daniel in the Lion’s Den (Daniel 6) here’s a question you can use. The meaning of the passage is about choosing to follow God no matter what, so your access question goes something like this: “If I asked you what would you do if you had to choose between doing the right thing and the wrong thing then I’m sure most of you would say you’d choose to do the right thing. But what if when you chose to do the right thing you got into trouble? And what if there were people pushing you to do the wrong thing. Well, in the Bible we read about a man called Daniel who had a choice like that to make. …

Access. Teach. Apply. Having done things out of order we’ve now looked at those 3 sections in the structure of your talk:

  • Access, where you link from what the children do understand to what you’re going to teach them.
  • Teach, where you look at what happened and what it means
  • Apply, where you ask what our response should be. It’s simple but it works. Thanks for reading and don’t forget to check out our other articles on children’s ministry if you’ve not already seen them.

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Preventing Child Abuse in Your Church


exual abuse in the church

It is important to be a welcoming church, and it’s important because we don’t want to be those who have faith and scare people, send people away from where they’ll hear the gospel.

Child abuse destroys families and it destroys churches and we’re not welcoming churches if we’re not thinking rightly about how to handle this, and how to make sure it doesn’t come to our church, or if it does come, how we can handle this in a godly way.

This is not an easy topic to discuss. But for a little while is we’re gonna stare at the face of evil.

That’s a hard thing to do, but it’s a necessary thing to do, because we live in a fallen world. It’s important for us to take the time.

This is a part of understanding our gospel stewardship, to understand how to handle evil when it comes across our door and what it means as Christians to wisely respond to it.

Our problem that we want to focus on is child abuse. Why talk about it? Well, bad information often results in bad decisions, which is why good information is necessary. It helps us to make wise decisions, especially when something goes wrong.

One of the first things we must do is define what child abuse is. We have to work with the definition of what we’re talking about.

Child abuse is any act or failure to act resulting in imminent risk, serious injury, death, physical or emotional or sexual harm, or exploitation of a child.

There’s six ways I want to address this issue.

First, consider the sad reality that we live in a fallen world, with sexual predators.

The Bible tells us, through Adam and Eve’s disobedience, sin entered into the world, and therefore, we’re all corrupt, we’re all sinners, we understand this affects everyone.

No one escapes evil’s grasp, and it’s no surprise, then, in a fallen world, that we see evil. We’re surrounded by it, and it even comes within our doors.

It’s sad to say that there are people who prey on children, that commit atrocious acts against children. I’ll use a variety of terms. Child abusers, sexual offender, perpetrator, but I’m even gonna call them sexual predators, because that’s what they are. They deliberately prey on children in order to do evil acts like abuse.

Second, the statistics show the extent of the problem that there are a lot of children who have been abused. Just consider these numbers.

  • There are approximately 747,000 registered sexual offenders in the U.S. alone.
  • There are as many as 100,000 sexual offenders who fail to report every year.
  • As many as one in three girls or one in four boys will be sexually abused at some point in their childhood.
  • Approximately 13% of all cases are reported to authorities, meaning 70% never get proper attention or prosecution.
  • Almost half, 47% of offenders who sexually assaulted victims under the age of six were family members.
  • Compared to 42% who assaulted youth, ages six through 11, and 24%, who assaulted juveniles, ages 12 through 17.

Numerous experts have made it clear that sexual predators often have, not just one or two but dozens of victims.

The Abel and Harlow Child Molestation Prevention Study found that every child molester averages 12 child victims and 71 acts of molestation. An earlier study by Dr. Gene Abel found that out 561 sexual offenders that they interviewed, there were more 291 incidents, involving 195,000 victims. Shocking, terrifying.

The study conducted by Gene Abel and Nora Harlow found that 93 percent of sex offenders identify themselves as “religious.”

You look at those numbers, and you begin to stare at what evil looks like in this fallen world. You see the cold, hard facts, and you come to realize how Satan has got a grip on so many people, by allowing abuse to occur, even within the homes of families within your church.

Third, churches have often been irresponsible in their prevention or response to abuse.

Now, this is a hard question to answer, why? Why does that occur?

You’ve seen the stories, you’ve heard the stories about this. A couple of things to consider.

Churches often do a poor job in handling abuse.

First, Christians are naive. Some sexual offenders state outright that they go to churches because they know Christians are naive.

One of the nation’s experts on sexual offenders is Dr. Anna Salter, and she comments, “If children can be silenced, and the average person is easy to fool, many offenders report that religious people are even easier to fool than most.”

Now we think about it. Christians, generally, are trusting folks. Child abusers recognize that fact, and they want to take full advantage of it.

If I said the best disposition for children’s ministry staff or volunteers in a position over children’s ministry was healthy skepticism towards other folks, many folks would call me a pessimist.

And if I took one step further, in asking a church to hold anyone who worked with children or youth, any of the leaders, to be screened or actually to abide by child safety policies, there’d be a lot of people in the church who would say, this is getting a little out of hand.

It’s hard enough to convince churches to actually go through background checks, let alone establish clear policies. And you see that Christians are ignorant of the problem.

Too many Christians are ignorant of the problem of abuse, especially when it happens in churches, because they don’t know the extent of the problem, and if you don’t know the extent, you don’t guard against it.

This is the kind of ignorance that leads to a naivete that can make children vulnerable. Many Christians don’t know how to distinguish between likability and trustworthiness. You know, they can confuse these two categories.

They assume that just because someone’s courteous and nice, they must be trustworthy, and that is just not always the case. Some Christians behave as though the problem doesn’t exist, and so they look on suspicion with cases of abuse, or they believe children are lying, and the adults must be correct.

One of the biggest hot beds of sexual predators and abuse of children was First Baptist Church of Hammond, Indiana under the leadership of Jack Hyles.

Hyles even put convicted child molester, A.V. Ballenger, that was awaiting sentencing for his crime in charge of a bus picking up children for church. Hyles told his members this man was innocent and his huge congregation believed him.

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Sweeping sexual abuse under the carpet.

Under Hyles and his successor, Jack Schaap, sexual abuse of women and children flourished in the church and even spread to other congregations influenced by Hyles.

The Chicago Magazine even did a huge write-up on the wickedness that had infiltrated this church.

Like First Baptist in Hammond, many churches ignore or cover-up abuse in their churches. Too often, the congregation is left unaware or misinformed when abuse happens.

Sexual predators know this, and they wanna take full advantage of this fact.

And then there is abuse of authority. From an early age, children are taught, rightfully, to obey authority, and especially their parents and other adults.

Authority in the hands of a truly godly person is a good thing, it’s meant to reflect the character of God Himself, but authority in the hands of an evil person does atrocious harm to a child.

Now, if you watch the news, you know the sad reality that there are lots of religious leaders who’ve abused children. You know, we’re not just talking priests, but pastors, youth leaders, Sunday School teachers, deacons, and the list goes on and on and on.

In one of the most highly publicized cases of abuse among Catholics, Father Lawrence Murphy abused more than 200 boys in the renowned deaf school in Wisconsin. Despite the boys’ repeated pleas to priests, to nuns, to police and prosecutors for help, from 1950 to 1974, Murphy worked at the school and sexually molested students, at times, even in view of other boys.

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Father Lawrence Murphy

Three successive archbishops were told about this, and none of them reported it. 1974, Murphy was quietly moved to northern Wisconsin to live with his mother and continued to work as a priest, and for the remaining 24 years of his life, he worked freely amongst children, and in the parishes in the Catholic schools.

In 1993, after repeated complaints about Murphy, Archbishop Rembert Weakland of Wisconsin hired a social worker who specialized in the treatment of sexual offenders, who then interviewed Murphy about the supposed allegations.

Here’s the most shocking thing about that story. He freely admitted to molesting boys. Didn’t deny it all, he freely admitted to what he did, but for the remaining years of his life, he was never prosecuted, either by the church’s own court or by public officials.

In 1996, Weakland attempted to have Murphy defrocked for his admission, but the Vatican declined to give a canonical trial. Two years later, Murphy died, and was buried in full priestly vestments. So not only did Murphy die, not facing any Earthly consequences, but he died being treated just like any other Catholic priest.

In addition to the ignorance of church members and their trusting nature, molestors also like churches because of the accessibility of children.

Churches are always looking for help in children’s ministry. You know this reality. You’re often short of help, and those who do help show up late, people get sick, call at the last minute, churches are often looking for help in children’s ministry.

Children’s ministers are often frail and worn out because they’re trying to keep children’s ministry together, and you know what? Sexual offenders know this reality. They know that you’re desperate for help.

Others don’t even bother showing up at their service, so if a courteous, kind, reliable person walks in, who’s attending regularly, and has earned the trust of others in the community and offers help, you know, what’s your children’s minister going to do?

No other organization provides such quick and easy access to children, and sexual offenders realize that.

They realize the plight that churches often are in, in taking care of their children, and recognize the help that they need. And then, reluctance to report abuse or mishandling of internal investigations.

Churches are often reluctant to report. If an adult with a supposed reputable character is accused, often, the child is second guessed, rather than the adult.

Leaders fear legal repercussion, so they don’t say anything, and out of pride, church members and leaders think they can handle the problem on their own, so they keep matters internal, and don’t ever call CPS.

There can be a concern for harming someone’s reputation. You know, even if the charges are false, if you say that someone has done something, and the allegations go public, that harms them, and labels them, in terms of their reputation for a long time.

Looking at all these things, some begin to evaluate and consider, actually, it seems like the repercussions are not worth it, so they self-justify that reporting is only gonna make it worse. Experts comment on how churches often botch up investigations or actually make the work of secular authorities harder, because they’re not competent to actually handle those investigations on their own.

Churches don’t usually have people who can handle abuse, like forensic interviewers who know how to handle children, and not retraumatize them after the experience they’ve been through, or police officers who have extensive experience in examining abusers. Or mental health professionals, who know how to document the signs and symptoms of child abuse.

Any delay in reporting actually can result in damage of evidence, important evidence that can help lead to the confrontation and prosecution of someone who’s abusing children.

Fourth, we need to come to grips who sexual predators are, and how they accomplish their evil deeds.

Two types of sexual predators, the power predator and the persuasion predator. Both wreak great havoc in the lives of victims, and both are problematic, but they accomplish their deeds in very different ways.

The power predator chooses to get a child by force. He overtakes a vulnerable child, forcing them into captivity. You can think in terms of a child who’s grabbed off a playground, in a school, or grabbed out of a backyard or is dragged into a car, or just anything like that.

You know, in the news, it was a couple of years ago, there was a clip that was frightening. They had caught on a street camera a man in his pickup truck who pulled up next to a girl who was around seven or eight, and her brother, who was around five, walking down the street, and he literally jumped out of his pickup truck, grabbed the girl, and tried to pull her into her pickup truck, and you, it was all caught on tape, you could see her wrestling, and her little brother, standing there watching and screaming, and she broke away, and they ran down the street, and the worst part about the video is he jumped into that pickup truck and followed them down the street.

Bestselling author and risk assessment expert, Gavin de Becker, describes it this way. “The power predator charges like a bear, unmistakably committing to his attack. Because of this, he cannot easily retreat or say there was merely a misunderstanding. Accordingly, he strikes only when he feels certain he’ll prevail.”

Almost 20 years ago, Jaycee Dugard was a young girl on her way to a school bus, when Phillip Craig and his wife, Nancy Garrido, abducted her. Nancy had scouted out Jaycee’s path to school, and then, one morning, just as Jaycee started walking to school, they pulled up on the road right next to her, and Phillip pulled out a stun gun, shocked her, and Nancy pulled her into the back of the car.

Phillip would later say to his wife, “I can’t believe we got away with this.”

For many years after abduction, Jaycee was a sex slave, who lived in the shed in their backyard. In just one fleeting moment, her entire childhood was robbed and it was taken away from her, her innocence of childhood was taken completely away.

She endured several years of rape in a nightmare scenario, but she stayed alive, and as you may know, as an adult, she was found, and then rescued, but unlike many other victims.

Jaycee survived. Many others don’t.

Persuasion predators use their personality, charm and influence to convince the gatekeepers.

You know what that is, those who are responsible for the children, that they are trustworthy and then, at the right time, strike to abuse children.

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A wolf in sheep’s clothing.

You might think about the illustration of a wolf in sheep’s clothing. You know, the wolf intends to harm others, but he doesn’t wanna be discovered by his plan, so he puts on the appearance of an innocent sheep.

In church settings, we’re focused on the persuasion predator, not the power predator.

You know, if your setup is such that you’ve set up a central desk or you’ve got doors, or you’ve got two adults in every classroom, then you’re well prepared, actually, for the power predator, but it’s the persuasion predator, the one who lives the double life, acts charming and nice and tries to persuade you that he’s trustworthy or she’s trustworthy, that’s the one that we most have to look after.

The myth of the stranger danger.

One of the most common myths about sexual offenders is that they will be strangers who take away your child. Power predators do exist, they scope out playgrounds, and places where kids are in order to abduct those children. Jaycee Dugard knows that quite well, but in church and family settings, the problem is much less with the stranger who’s after our children, but actually, those who we intersect with every day.

Church attenders, childcare workers, nursery workers, family members, neighbors, it’s the people we know, not the people we don’t know, so there is this myth of a stranger danger, that the worst people are actually the people who don’t know our kids.

One expert comments, “It is common knowledge that most children are not sexually victimized by strangers. In fact, one study found that only 10% of child molesters molest children that they don’t know.”

Consider that more than 80% of the time, victims of child abuse know their abusers. Most children know how to respond to an unwelcome stranger, but they’re uncertain what to do when a safe adult, a safe adult makes them feel uncomfortable.

What’s the typical profile of a sexual offender, a sexual predator? Well, single males are the most likely, but we can’t assume that there’s only one type of predator. There are some instances where women actually get trapped in this perverse sin.

You hear this in news accounts. Probably the most common situation is when a teacher abuses a child in her classroom. You think of schoolteachers leading teenage boys astray in inappropriate sexual encounters, but what you come to realize, when you look at actually, all the studies, you read all the literature, predators come in all types. Single and married, and blue and white collar, educated and uneducated, rich, middle class and poor.

In examining case after case after case, what do you find? There are examples from every category of work. College professor, athletic director of a private school, Catholic priest, a doctor, a lawyer, a pastor, and many, many, many, many other professionals.

So you can’t limit sexual offenders to just one generic profile.

The question we have to ask then, is “how do they get away with it?”

What do they do? How do they employ their means to actually carry this out? Well, the keyword is grooming. Grooming is a process of working over adults, and then the children, in order to gain trust and then to be able to abuse.

The most common technique for sexual offenders is to gain access to children by cultivating what they call a double life. Sexual offenders work very hard to be trustworthy, likable and respectable members of the community.

If they’re trusted, if they’re liked, if they’re respected, they earn the trust of the church community, and then, they win over the gatekeepers, those who are in charge of the children, and if they win over the gatekeepers, then, they get access to the kids.

Offenders don’t usually rush in grooming. Instead, they take their time to develop their relationships with church members. Then, in order to win over adults and become accepted part of the community, they put on this persona of being useful, kind, helpful, polite, caring adults and children alike.

Author and expert, Anna Salter, comments, “The double life is a powerful tactic. There is this pattern of socially responsible behavior in public that causes parents and others to drop their guard and to allow access to children, and to turn a deaf ear to disclosures, but a surly and obnoxious person would have little access, no matter how proper or appropriate his public behavior was.”

Salter continues, “The second tactic is the ability to charm, to be likable, to radiate sincerity and truthfulness, is crucial to gaining access to children.”

Now the most violent offenders know enough to keep their behavior in check publicly, or else, their plans would be ruined. The fact that sexual offenders are not off putting, but actually might be people with good qualities, is provides them with the necessary cover.

Most people will think of a sexual offender as a monster, someone who’s all bad, someone who is clearly evil. We wouldn’t think of them as the nice person, the trustworthy person, who’s actually residing in our children’s ministry.

Then what happens? Once a sexual predator’s gained trust of a significant number of people in a church, suspicions become harder. Conformity studies often tell us that if the majority of the folks actually believe in something, that this person is respectable, kind and trustworthy, then it’s actually really hard to go against the majority.

In reality, what’s happening is that the sexual offender is regularly manipulating and pretending to be someone he or she is not. Offenders are professional liars. That’s what they are. They self-worship and they lie.

They do this evil out of a deceitful, wicked heart. They’ve lied to everyone in their lives, church members, friends, victims, and even to themselves, in order to justify their selfish, sinful desires, and to continue the destructive habits of harming children.

According to most experts who deal with sexual offenders, not only is lying hard to detect, but because they’re professionals at this, it’s often hard for us to figure out who is lying, who is not. They actually come off as quite convincing.

So if a predator’s roaming around your church, he’s probably not a stranger to you. He’s actually probably someone you know. And if he’s someone you already know, and you don’t see as a threat, then you’re in a dangerous position.

Then we have the grooming of the child.

Once a predator has earned the trust of the community, and perhaps, particularly, a family, gaining access to children in the process, then he’ll start grooming the child.

What happens then? Gifts, words of affirmation and praise, extraordinary amount of attention, lots of affection, for the unsuspecting child.

One sexual offender described it, his strategy this way, “When a person like myself wants to obtain a child, you don’t just go up and get the child, and sexually molest the child. There’s a process of obtaining the child’s friendship, and in my case, also obtaining the family’s friendship and their trust. When you get their trust, that’s when the child “become vulnerable, and you can begin to molest the child.”

Now in regards to physical contact, grooming of a child occurs across a continuum. They start with more innocent behaviors, like touching the arm, or tickling games, or other things like that, but what they do is they gradually move into more and more risky behavior.

They want to test and see how far they can go, because if they can get further and further, they can continue to pursue their selfish desires. It moves to more risky behavior like kissing on the lips instead of a cheek, or telling sexual jokes, or extended touch.

The sexual predator’s goal is to blur the lines between what’s appropriate and what’s inappropriate, and that opens the doorway to actually taking greater risks. Things progress with the child becoming more and more comfortable with each step, and that’s the goal, not to radically introduce it right away, but to slowly take steps, increasing the level of sexuality that’s introduced into the relationship.

Many sexual offenders are very deliberate, and very careful about their planning. They’re not dumb. They’re strategic in what they’re planning and what they’re thinking.

According to prosecutor and expert, Victor Vieth, “Sexual offenders are often looking for an easy target.”

You know, what’s a prime example of this? A sexual predator purposely pursues vulnerable children. You know who fits in those categories? Children of, single parents, or parents who are divorced.

Think about what happens in a family situation like that. The mom, on her own, is struggling to make ends’ meet. She’s struggling to do work and parent her children. She’s tired and she’s exhausted, and a kind, trustworthy man steps into the picture, as a father figure to the child.

She’s overjoyed to have someone pay attention to her child, she’s overjoyed to have someone who’s actually gonna invest in her child, and so she’s more than happy to hand over the child to that adult, to give more and more time to that adult so she can finally get a break.

Don’t you know that the sexual offender realizes this?

And he’s deliberately plotting to take advantage of those who are more vulnerable in your congregation. What other types of vulnerable children are there that they’re targeting?

Offenders prey on children who are experiencing family problems. They prey on children who are in trouble, who break the rules. They prey on children who are eager to please, or kids who are disabled in some way, that make it less believable, if they spoke out, or kids who are just too young to articulate the experience of abuse.

One sexual offender, John Henry, said in his testimony before the U.S. Senate, “I showed them affection and the attention that they thought they were not getting anywhere else. Almost without exception, every child I’ve molested was lonely and longing for attention. Their desire to be loved, their trust of adults, their normal sexual playfulness, and their inquisitive minds made them perfect victims.”

What’s the lesson for us, when you hear that quote? Go love your kids. Hold them, hug them, get down on the ground with those young ones and play with them. You know, show them that affection and love that they deserve.

Predators are also counting on no disclosure. Children who are molested and disclose this to an adult are rarely taken seriously, because perpetrators seem unlikely to be sexual offenders.

If your child said a schoolteacher or a doctor or a respected coach in the community had molested them, would you believe him? Would you believe her?

I hope I would, I hope you would, I hope I’d take it seriously right away, but you know that you’re gonna have that moment of doubt, because that person who’s so well respected in your community being charged like this with an accusation of molesting, it’s hard to figure that out sometimes, and discern it.

Because you know that folly’s wrapped up in the heart of a child, Proverbs 22:15. And to discern between the folly of my child and the reputation of a highly-respected, well known figure in my community, it’s not always easy to discern.

Attorney General Linda Kelly, who prosecuted Jerry Sandusky, said, “One of the recurring themes of witnesses’ testimonies, which came from the voices of the victims themselves, in this case was, ‘Who would believe a kid?’”

Sadly, too often, children are ignored, which, in turn, increases the confidence of sexual offenders.

You know why they get more bold and more risky? Because they get away with it, and every time they get away with it, they seek more risk, they go even more boldly, into things that they didn’t think they could even do.

They take more risks, they’re more willing to do things, and that’s dreadful for children. A dreadful consequence of children keeping secrets or not being believed by adults is that offenders will have dozens upon dozens of victims.

Fifth, what can we do to prevent abuse?

Well, this is the million dollar question, isn’t it? You know, this is what we want to know. How do we stop this? How to be wise as Christians, so that this doesn’t have to happen within our churches.

I’m gonna lay out a few things for you to help you think about how do we deal with this, as Christians, but I just want you to recognize, like everything I list, if you did every single thing, it would be fully weaponizing your children’s ministry, and yet, not every church is ready to do every single thing.

There’s a huge difference between a church plant with 20 people, and a church with 150 people in the suburbs, or a rural church with 100 people, or a church in the suburbs with 1,000 people, or a megachurch with 2,000 people.

They all have to consider these things differently, and so, as you think about your own congregation, you wanna think about, okay, what are we ready for? What can our leadership handle? What is our congregation ready for? What can we do right now?

The most fundamental thing, the thing that everybody often talks about is a child protection policy.

What’s a policy? It’s basically a self-imposed set of guidelines in which you operate to create a safe environment for your children. It’s not rules from the government.

It’s basically your own staff, your elders, your leaders, your deacons, your parents saying, this is what we wanna do to keep the kids safe, and this is the most important part about it.

You actually decide what that is, and then you gotta actually live according to what you set. Because you get in greater trouble if you set guidelines, and you don’t abide by it, because what will a judge do?

A judge will look you in the face, and say, “you had all these things in your policy, but you didn’t do any of it.”

And thus, with that, you’ve taken on greater liability than if you had done nothing to begin with. So, have a policy, work through that with your staff, have one that fits your church, and then, as you do that, the general rule of thumb is you wanna increase accountability with adults, and decrease isolation with children.

That’s the basic principle of any policy. I don’t really care all of the specifics of it, that’s what you’re working towards.

You want clear check in and check out procedures. If you are bringing in children without their parents or guardian, you need to know when they come and go and where they are and who they are with.

Many churches have haphazard ways of receiving and returning children., You just want a system that distinguishes between when a child is now under the responsibility of the church, and when the child is under the responsibility of parents.

A clear line so that your church has clear responsibility when it should have responsibility and there’s no confusion amongst parents and yourself.

Why do you want do that?One church told of an example of a parent who had lost full rights to her children. She actually went to the church during the church service when she knew that the foster parents were in the service, to check out her children.

Fortunately, that church knew and was able to say no. But not every church has the clear enough guidelines and procedures to actually be able to do that.

Screening and verification.

Most people, if you ask them what they do to prevent abuse, they’re going to say something like this, “Well, we have two adults in every room, we have check in and check out, and we do background checks.”

Background checks are important. That’s the standard, not just for churches who try and do these kinds of things but most secular organizations dealing with children do background checks.

The tragedy is when churches say this is too much. But why would the church do anything less to protect their own children, than what the world is actually doing?

Here’s the tricky thing, because most churches get into a false sense of security and thinking, if we do a background check, we’re good. Most sexual offenders actually are not caught until much later, so they offend dozens and dozens of kids.

Background checks only catch a small percentage of offenders. So don’t get deluded into the fact that if we just do background checks, our kids are perfectly fine. You should do them, they’re the standard for actually screening for workers with children, but don’t be deluded in the fact in thinking you’re foolproof, just simply because you’ve done it.

Train your staff.

Awareness training of your staff, your leadership team, and your children’s ministry volunteers. Do the key leaders in your church understand your p[olicy? Do they even know? Because we can’t lead out of ignorance.

Part of having good information is if we know, then we can actually do something about the problem. We can actually help protect our children, and even more so, good information helps us make wise decisions if something goes wrong.

As dreadful of a topic as this is, we want to be wise in how we understand and how we handle abuse and evil in this fallen world.

If you haven’t ever thought about this idea of training your church, training volunteers, or at least training the leadership of your church, then do that. There’s a lot more I could get into about reporting, church membership, training parents and teens, getting to know resources in your community, but for the sake of time, let me say one last thing.

Number six, as Christians, we live with hope, and we’re not ruled by anger, bitterness, fear or despair.

We don’t ignore victims, but we patiently love them over months and sometimes, years, to help them understand God’s love for them. We listen and hear their stories. It’s the most basic thing we could ever do for a victim.

And we call out evil for what it is. We never minimize it, and we never explain away abuse. One of the most important things when speaking with a victim is when you hear their story, to tell them that that was evil and wrong, and that God hates that kind of abuse.

I ministered for three years in a local juvenile detention center and I heard countless heart-tearing stories of abuse suffered by these young people.

I wanted them to know that that abuse is not at all acceptable. We know that God can heal and redeem even the worst of situations, even the worst of tragedies.

God can redeem anything. There’s not a single situation that’s beyond His grasp. There’s not a single case of abuse that God can’t lift from the ashes, and point those children to the glories of heaven. Nothing is impossible with God.

So my goal, when I talk about this, is not to be a fearmonger. We don’t live by fear, but I want to be honest about child abuse and the evil that occurs within this world.

I don’t want to leave this conversation without remembering the sovereignty of God, and that we live by faith, not fear. And we live by love, not anger. And we live by hope, not despair.

Jesus changes this whole conversation. Because Christ died for us, and He was raised again on the third day, we don’t have to live in despair.

So if you ever have the privilege of sitting down with a victim, remind them that God is there, and remind them that Jesus died for them, and remind them that we have hope.

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